My name is Rae, and I’m the daughter of a hoarder. I try not to let that define me, but this blog is all about my relationship with a compulsive hoarder. Otherwise, I’m happily married, with 2 beautiful daughters, and have a great career. I’m creative and love to sew, read, and pursue photography. And yet I struggle with my Mother’s mental illness. This is where I’ll try to sort out my feelings about the situation, and deal with the stress of trying to help someone who doesn’t want it.
Whenever I discuss compulsive hoarding with others, I find they think it’s just slightly more than average untidiness. They’re amazed to learn how serious it is, and how devastating the results can be for the family of someone with the disorder. They watch the shows like Hoarders or Buried Alive, and are disgusted. Often, they’re compelled to go and purge some of their own belongings, or clean their fridge. “How can anyone possibly live like that?” they ask me. “Why don’t they just throw the garbage away? They’re just being lazy.” Well, that’s just not the case.
And so explains the name of my blog…I want to give you a personal view so you’ll see it’s ‘not just clutter.’
If you’d like to know more about what exactly is compulsive hoarding, my first post is a good place to start.
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